“I will try ..” is a path to failure
If the Pygmalion effect describes the dynamic in which an individual lives up to great expectations, the set-up-to-fail syndrome explains the opposite. It is the Golem effect . But I’d like to see it here from an own personal perspective: an internal view. Why are we so afraid to fail? I think that a great cause of failure is one’s mindset, right from the beginning. We can sabotage ourselves before we even begin, afraid of failure or embarrassment. We are not sure of ourselves, exterior factors, the very conjuncture we can expect, it’s a new / unknown path, close to the limit or even pushing our comfort zone … so we get scared. Afraid we’ll fail. We set up our mindset for failure, before even starting to do something. We say: “I’ll try …“, but leave a convenient way out – we already paved the way for failure just by considering it as a possibility. We got a backup plan, but all those who succeed almost never have a backup, it’s do or die. Then, how to succeed at anything when all we ...